Life, Loss and Love After 70
There are people who have lost a loved one because of divorce and people who have lost a loved one through death. “ I trust my own opinion because I had a very happy marriage for 48 years. People in my position can trust too easily and people who have had loss through divorce and betrayal can find it very difficult to trust someone else again. You have to rely on your gut instinct and on your friends”.
She continues:
“Frank had taken care of me for so many years when I needed him through pregnancies and surgery and bad jobs and disappointing situations, he was always there loving me, caring for me, supporting me. So when he needed care, I was more than glad to do it.
Reframing the Question
“What’s your happiness level? Is there anything I can do to help you be happier? Are you where you want to be in this dating process? Dating may entail taking you to the theatre, picking up a pot roast for you, being sensitive to the person whose lost some body precious and whose mindmap is all over the place. Whatever approach is in play, be respectful.”
Something new, fresh and exciting
Find out what’s going to work for you.
You are starting to learn something new about someone new . It’s fun, it’s exciting and
What helps is being clear about who and what’s going to be involved and how often. While this is true with a young marriage or partnership, it is even more important for couples when they are older and have a set of their own expectations. If you are starting out with someone at 75 or 76, you really have to think your strategy through”.